From Mike Wallach, BCBA and dad of four
Stop the tantrum
before it starts.
Most parenting advice kicks in mid-scream, when nobody can hear a thing. The RIGHT Framework teaches your kid to hear no, wait, and hand things over on the calm days. So the bad moments get shorter. Then rarer.
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5
moves
3
modules
$37
one time
Both
parents
- 01
Tonight
Watch it after the kids are down.
- 02
Tomorrow
Practice one move while everyone is calm.
- 03
Next time
Use it when it starts. The moment gets shorter.
If this sounds like your house, keep reading.
The scream you can still hear
Thirty minutes. Sometimes an hour. You've tried calm, you've tried firm, you've tried bribes. Now you mostly wait it out, then replay the sound of it for the rest of the night.
"Is this our new life?"
You've asked it at 11pm. And under it sits the one you don't say out loud: what does this look like when they're 16?
Every outing is a gamble
Grandma's house. A restaurant. The vacation you paid for. You're planning the exit before you've even sat down.
You and your partner are on opposite sides
One of you goes soft. The other goes strict. Neither works, and now the fight isn't about bedtime anymore. It's about each other.
Good behavior feels like a coin flip
Some days it's half the time. Some days it's barely any. You've started to wonder if this is just who your kid is. It isn't. It's a skill they haven't practiced yet.
You're winning everywhere but home
Career, money, friends: handled. Then you walk in the door and feel like you're failing at the one job that matters most.
None of this makes you a bad parent. Most of us were only ever taught to react in the moment. That's the part that changes.
I do this for a living. My own daughter still had me stumped.
Our second daughter had the loudest scream I've ever heard. And she could hold it. Thirty minutes. An hour. At two, at four, at five.
My wife and I actually talked about getting her professional help. Weird conversation, because I'm the professional help. I'm a Board Certified Behavior Analyst, one of fewer than 100,000 in the world, and I work with the toughest kids anyone can send me. And I was lying awake wondering what this would look like when she was 16.
What finally worked wasn't a better way to handle the meltdown. It was teaching her the skills the meltdown was about. Hearing no. Waiting. Giving something up. We practiced when she was calm and nothing was on the line. The screaming got shorter, then rarer. The house went from always on edge to just chill.
That's the RIGHT Framework. I use it all day at work and every night with my own four kids. They're not perfect. They're about 80% good, which is exactly the goal.
- Board Certified Behavior Analyst
- Former classroom teacher
- Master's in education
- Dad of four
- 10+ years with families
Build the skill outside the moment.
You can't teach a kid to swim while they're drowning. You can't teach them to handle “no” in the middle of a meltdown either. So you practice when the stakes are low. Small reps, on good days. Then when dinner blows up, the skill is already there. It all runs on five moves:
- R
Redirect
Catch it at the whine, not the scream. Point them at something they can do instead.
- I
Ignore
Stop paying attention to the whining and backtalk you don't want more of.
- G
Give two choices
"Shoes or jacket first?" They get a say. You still pick the options.
- H
Harness their motivation
Use what they already want as the reason to cooperate. Not a bribe. A plan.
- T
Teach the appropriate behavior
Practice the skill while everyone's calm, so it's there when someone isn't.
This isn't gentle parenting that's scared of the word no. It isn't brain science that explains the tantrum and leaves you nothing to do about it. It's high standards, said warmly, in plain English.
Half the fight isn't with your kid.
It's the look across the kitchen. One of you thinks the other caves too fast. The other thinks you're too harsh. Your kid figured out the gap months ago, and goes straight to whoever's softer.
The RIGHT Framework doesn't pick a side. It gives you both the same five moves and the same words. Your kid gets one set of rules, and you stop replaying the argument after lights out.
Watch it together. That's the whole point.
Built for the three fights that run most houses.
Tantrums and meltdowns
What to do in the first 60 seconds. What turns a 10-minute meltdown into an hour. And the practice that makes the next one shorter.
Not listening
How to ask so it lands the first time, and what to do when it doesn't. No counting to three. No raised voice.
Sibling fighting
How to step in without becoming the full-time referee, and how to teach sharing and waiting so they sort more of it out themselves.
What a normal week starts to look like.
About 80% good behavior. Not 100%. The other 20% is a tired, hungry kid being a kid, and now you have the patience for it.
You and your partner say the same things, the same way. Your kid stops shopping for the softer parent.
Restaurants, road trips, and grandma's house go back to being plans, not things you brace for.
Your kid hears "no," waits, and hands the toy back. On a random Tuesday. Without you standing over them.
The house stops feeling on edge. You get to just hang out with your kids again.
What parents say after working with Mike.
“Of these 5 strategies, I think I was using 1.5, and not even in a helpful manner. Mike has been a godsend.”
Sean
Corporate leader, two daughters, 5 and 2
“I saw how my own reactions were impacting my daughter's behavior. Mike taught us simple, easy to implement techniques that helped me catch myself before reacting. I saw almost instant changes. My stress has decreased and our relationship is getting stronger.”
Chasity
Mom of 1
“After 3 failed attempts with a sleep consultant, Mike was able to coach us to help our 3 year old sleep through the night in his own bed. We are all a happier family because of Mike's program.”
Sara
Mom of 2
“The tools and guidance Mike provided has already made me a calmer, more in-control parent who can better understand and respond to my child's behaviors. You are definitely getting a deal, and this course is worth every penny and more.”
Becky
Mom of 1
“Mike's 1-page card with the main points is right on the middle of our fridge. Whenever I'm having a hard week I go back, re-read the card, and feel like I have hands-on tools to walk through those moments.”
Heidi
Mom of 3, school director
“Before joining Mike's program, we didn't have much success creating the home life we desired. Mike changed our perspective toward our children and allowed us to make the changes to get where we wanted to go.”
Nancy
Mom of 2, both with special needs
“Of these 5 strategies, I think I was using 1.5, and not even in a helpful manner. Mike has been a godsend.”
Sean
Corporate leader, two daughters, 5 and 2
“I saw how my own reactions were impacting my daughter's behavior. Mike taught us simple, easy to implement techniques that helped me catch myself before reacting. I saw almost instant changes. My stress has decreased and our relationship is getting stronger.”
Chasity
Mom of 1
“After 3 failed attempts with a sleep consultant, Mike was able to coach us to help our 3 year old sleep through the night in his own bed. We are all a happier family because of Mike's program.”
Sara
Mom of 2
“The tools and guidance Mike provided has already made me a calmer, more in-control parent who can better understand and respond to my child's behaviors. You are definitely getting a deal, and this course is worth every penny and more.”
Becky
Mom of 1
“Mike's 1-page card with the main points is right on the middle of our fridge. Whenever I'm having a hard week I go back, re-read the card, and feel like I have hands-on tools to walk through those moments.”
Heidi
Mom of 3, school director
“Before joining Mike's program, we didn't have much success creating the home life we desired. Mike changed our perspective toward our children and allowed us to make the changes to get where we wanted to go.”
Nancy
Mom of 2, both with special needs
This isn't for everyone.
It's for you if
- You're doing well at work and in life, and home is the one place that feels out of control.
- You're willing to change a few small things you do, not just wait for your kid to change.
- You want high standards for your kid, without yelling to get there.
- You and your partner are tired of arguing about who's right.
- You'll practice a little on the good days, not only reach for it on the bad ones.
Skip it if
- You think your kid is the problem and you just want them fixed.
- You want something that works 100% of the time. Nothing does. We aim for 80%.
- You want gentle parenting that avoids the word no.
- Your child is unsafe or in crisis. Get in-person support first.
Questions
Same inputs, same evenings.
Your kid will probably melt down again this week. The only question is whether you walk in with the same moves as last time.
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